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Girl… please. I just got an email from the MOH for my friend C’s wedding. The Bachelorette party is this weekend, and ladies… if I could only show you these documents.

Names, numbers, maps, schedules, wardrobe…

Talk about a girl whose got her shit figured out. We are in good hands.

I’m not even joking. This is the most organized, well thought out bachelorette plan I have ever seen… and I haven’t even attended it yet. I have no doubts that this winery weekend in the hamptons will transcend paper and turn out amazing!

Now… what to do about this rain…

I just went to lunch with a couple of friends, one of whom is putting the finishing touches on her upcoming spring wedding, the other who is both attending and standing up in more weddings than is normal in life, and we started to have a pretty worked up conversation about all the stress that other people bring to the planning of a wedding. Of course there are exceptions to this, especially if money is involved. But for the most part, I really do think that brides shouldn’t be making too many concessions for the people around them. And I’m a really giving and accommodating person. I just happen to believe that a bride’s wedding day is just that. Her day. And she should be able to have the day that she has been envisioning. Not the day you have been envisioning.

It’s so sad to me when all the pre-engagement enthusiasm and excitement just disappears and is replaced with the constant stress and need for a bride to appease everyone but herself and her groom.

This is not typical stress brought on by her own indecision with bridesmaid dress colors, or table linens, or what song she will walk down the aisle to.

No, this stress is brought on by the “we thought this day was all about us” people.


You and your overbearing opinions…

Back. off.

I’m not even kidding.

You’re allowed to have an opinion if your bride wants to walk down the dress in a neon pink dress with a yellow sash carrying a bouquet of dead roses.

Actually no. You don’t even get an opinion then. You know why?


Your role in this day is to be supportive, and helpful, and that’s it.

If she wants to know what you think… she’ll ask. And if she doesn’t, and is clearly happy in that floor length lace dress instead of a full on ball gown that you had your heart set on… keep it to yourself.

This is not your wedding. You had yours, or you’ll get yours, and you can and will and should do everything YOU want to do.

But this is not that day.

This is her day.

And what she really, really doesn’t need is you, guest of the groom’s brother calling, after receiving your invitation, to ask if it’s ok if you bring your new boyfriend.

You know the one you’ve been dating for three weeks?



Not ok.

At all.

You either get a date or you don’t. And while I typically believe that after a certain age, most of the invites should land in the latter column, regardless, it’s expensive to have a wedding, and you can’t always roll the way you want to.

If you don’t get a plus one… you do not. DO NOT. go asking for one.

Besides if the person you were dating was special enough in your world, and you’re in turn special enough in the world of the person whose wedding you are attending… odds are they’d already be invited.

There is a reason you were asked to be in this wedding, or attend this wedding. It’s because the bride and groom think you are important enough to stand up with them, or be there to witness the most important day of their lives.

It’s not about you.

It’s about them. And it’s an honor, not a chore.

So quit your whining.

Hooray! So most of you know my gingered bestie is heading to the altar, but was dragging her feet on preparations… not because they were cold, but really just because that’s how she rolls. But guess what? They nailed down a date! And a venue! And now she’s got a head full of decor ideas that she shoots over to me via Gchat daily.  I love it. I’m so excited! So I just wanted to share. Sigh. Visions of spring neutrals and May flowers abound for this girl’s Friday night nuptials along the Chesapeake Bay in Maryland. So excited!

Now I just need to find some kind of organization for the countless number of links she’s sent me pointing out the table decorations from this real wedding, and the bridesmaid dresses from a different one. Her head is all kinds of brilliance with this game, so I can’t wait to get a load of the end result, but I digress. We have time. She’s reading this and starting to panic… aren’t you? SO MUCH TIME. Settle.

But so exciting nonetheless.

I feel like I’m always waiting to be surprised.

I love surprises.

Maybe it’s the overload of romantic comedies that bombard us in the theaters, but I’m a believer in surprises.

I’m not talking material surprises. I mean sure what girl doesn’t love to be surprised by diamonds and pearls, but I’m talking about thoughtful surprises. Unexpected gestures. I love them.

Now for the actual wedding day… I’m not talking surprises that mess with the vision created on you or your friend’s wedding day. Don’t show up in purple when you know you’re supposed to wear pink. That is not a nice surprise.  But a nice little surprise that the bride doesn’t necessarily know about, really makes for a nice little day. I know of a bride who recently was surprised via a video image message from her soon-to-be husband of her wedding gift… a brand new golden retriever puppy. Wonderful.

I’ve aided and abetted a few pretty great surprises and while being surprised feels pretty wonderful, surprising someone else is better…

So I’m a total NPR junkie. I’ll admit it. It’s the best part about my Sunday morning, along with the New York Times. That I purchase and read in my hands… not online. Call it old school, but I’m a glutton for weekend tradition. So, some of you may have heard the NPR program This I Believe…

It was started in 1951 by journalist, radio pioneer, and all around cool guy Edward R. Murrow. Ever heard of him? Murrow asked Americans from all walks of life to write essays about their most fundamental and closely held beliefs, encouraging people to write in and share their thoughts. It was revived in 2005 and continues to run today.

In the spirit of the holidays I decided to share my own short essay of some of my own personal beliefs, as both a tribute to the program, and to share with all of you this season.

This I Believe…

I believe that the power of hello is stronger than you might think

I believe hugs are underrated and underused

I believe there is something bigger out there

I believe that patience is the most over rated virtue

I believe that generosity is a virtue worth remembering

I believe you get what you give

I believe in maintaining some childlike wonder, no matter how old you are

I believe in the power of song

I believe charm can go a long way

I believe in not going to bed angry

I believe in the truth

I believe in forgiveness and acceptance

I believe in the power of surprises

I believe in listening. Really listening.

I believe love is in the details

I believe in handwritten cards and letters.

I believe laughter is the most important part of a relationship. Any kind.

I believe in the power of positive thinking

I do believe in signs

I believe in keeping in touch with friends and family

I believe in please and thank you

I believe you know when something is just that right

I believe in maintaining old traditions while creating your own

I believe in love

I believe that giving someone your time is the best gift you can give.

I believe in magic

Wishing you a very magical holiday season and a very happy and healthy new year.

About NPR & This I Believe:

In reviving This I Believe, executive producer Dan Gediman says, “The goal is not to persuade Americans to agree on the same beliefs. Rather, the hope is to encourage people to begin the much more difficult task of developing respect for beliefs different from their own.”

This I Believe, Inc., in partnership with Henry Holt and Company, has produced two books collecting essays featured in the NPR series. The first book, published in 2006, became a New York Times bestseller in paperback, while the second volume was published in 2008. In addition to collecting these essays for posterity, the books have become popular with “one book, one community” projects.

For more information on NPR and This I Believe click here.

Oh so many weddings! I’m working on some beautiful Real Weddings to share with you all!

Stay tuned…

I’m told patience is a virtue.

Seriously. I feel like I have been on 18 months of straight weddings. Oh wait I have. And the next leg of wedding season is about to kick-off again. One of my dearest friends… I’ve known him since first grade… is getting married in just three weeks! Kind of hard to believe! Then, my college roomate ties the knot two weeks later at what I’m expecting will be a very laid back and beautiful wedding in the woods of New Hampshire. The couple rented out a camp for their guests for the entire weekend. More details to come on that.

Then we have a little lull, until November, when one of my newest and sweetest most wonderful friends marries at a ski resort in Maryland. Up and down the east coast… here we go 🙂

I love it.

In the meantime, I’m taking a much anticipated and much needed little break from the vacation wedding- which is all I’ve been on lately- out west to California for a few days of relaxing with a little wine, and a little shopping… ahh.

That said, I might be missing for a few days, but don’t panic. I’ll have lots of West Coast wisdom to share when I return.

Happy early weekend!

Hi ladies- Hope this week is flying by for you all! I have so many updates for you all! I attended the NYC Stationary Show on Monday and it was AMAZING, OVERWHELMING and completely fabulous. Some of my favorites were there… namely Linda & Harriet (Which was pretty wonderful). But  I also have some really wonderful new stationers that I can’t wait to share with you! SO bear with me… there’s lots of invitation and gift porn coming your way!

This weekend = complete and total madness for me, so I will be away. I’ll be back on Tuesday and you should all step away from your computers and enjoy the sunshine for the weekend! I have double graduation duty, an engagement BBQ and a wedding. So I’ll have LOTS to share next week.




Photo Courtesy of Elaine Marie Photography

Photo Courtesy of Elaine Marie Photography



Hi girls! I’m so very sorry for my absence lately. I have been busy, busy! But I have not forgotten you!

I have a super fun REAL WEDDING coming up and REAL SHOWER images, ideas and game ideas to share with you very soon!

Patience. I hear it’s a virtue…

Hope you’re all staying dry in this very wet May weather!

(Check out how beautiful rain can make your wedding photos though- this one’s from Elaine Marie Photography)

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